On New Year’s Eve Eve, I’m driving along happily in my car listening to some tunes on the radio on my favourite station, the Blazing Fame 95 FM. On my speakers I hear the familiar voice of Shaggy and the veteran Barrington Levy. The song of choice: “Full Control”. I’m rocking to the song, listening to the smoothness of the beat and the truthfullness of the words, all along under the impression that this song was on Shaggy’s new album … only to be completely shocked to come home today, search on the net for the song and realize that this song is on Shaggy’s 2002 Album, Lucky Day.
The song speaks about independent women who are in full control of their lives, confident, knows how to handle herself, take care of herself, doesn’t jump at every man who offers her something, but much prefers to be assured and have her heart secured. I’m sure we can all attest to a man who expresses an interest in you and the first thing that comes out of their mouth is I drive a …., I live in some popular neighbourhood, I’m a top executive at a company, I have $$$ in the bank, blah blah blah, going on and on about what they have and nothing about who they are.
The other day too, while driving to Kingston, I for some reason was listening to Disclosure with Kingsley “Ragashanti” Stewart on Hot 102 where he was speaking of an article in the Flair magazine in the Monday Gleaner, which spoke about men selling sex to women. He expounded on the article and extended the concept to the wider society of men who are now seeking to get with a woman who is financially stable, successfull, achieved by society’s standards and basically just give her as much sex as she wants/needs while she takes care of him … or as we say in Jamaica, “mine him”. With more and more women becoming independent, there are 3 types of men:
1. The one that will be supportive, and want to stand beside you as you both make your way up the ladder in life
2. The ones who will bad mind you, say you slept with some man to get your house, car, job, call you a ho
3. Those who just want to take advantage of the situation and get as much as they can from you.
It is so interesting to think about these things and see how the world operates and changes overtime. All I can say is ladies, keep being independent and strong and strive to find a man who falls in Category 1 above. And men, have enough strength and pride in yourself to be a man in category 1 above.