The oh so witty Daddy Oh who writes in the Sunday Observer had a very interesting article on Sunday, Marital Mistakes. The article basically talks about people getting married for the wrong reasons and some lies that absolutely MUST be told to women in order to keep the marriage alive. While I found the article amusing, I thought it quite chauvinistic that women are portrayed as a weak, unintelligent, self-esteem lacking beings who will fall for anything. Admittedly, there are some women like those talked about in the article and I don’t know if they are the majority. But, I took slight offence to some aspects of it. And to think that these little white lies are what seems to be holding many marriages together according to Daddy Oh is quite sad. What ever happened to good old companionship? Have we become so idealistic that our happiness in marriage is now pinned down to how beautiful or wife/husband is, how much money we are making, where we live, where we hang out, who we hang out with, what kind of car we drive, where we work and all that non-sensical crap?? Do married couples talk anymore? And I mean talk, not argue about paying bills or who needs to talk to the son that’s not making grades or the daughter who talks too long on the phone. I mean talk, about their likes, their dreams, things they want to do together and actually plan doing them? If this is what marriage is all about, then I absolutely don’t want it. I want to be happy in my marriage when I do get married … not caught up in all the societal drama which seems to ensue.
On another note, an article in the Monday Observer’s All Woman Magazine, To Catch A Snoop, also caught my eye and interest. How many women are guilty of going through their man’s phone, drawers, wallet looking for evidence of infidelity which we certainly cannot deal with if we find out it’s true that the low life some of a bitch bastard mofo has been lying to us and cheating on us for as long as the relationship has been in existence. According to the article, it is encouraging said snooping in order to prevent heartbreak and at the worst extreme, contracting HIV/AIDS from a cheating partner.
What says the blogosphere on the latter article? Is snooping ok? Would you leave your partner if you found out that they snooped or confessed to you that they snooped? What if you were in fact the cheating lying bastard I mentioned earlier? Would your reaction be the same? To not be bias and give the view that I think only men cheat which I most certainly don’t, this question extends to the men too although I believe the activity of snooping is done mostly done by the feminine gender.
Is it right to be “snoopy” … cute huh?? … CD wants to know!