If A Man Wants You – Msg. to all my ladies


If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.  If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends.”  A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.  He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.  If something bothers
you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything.  He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behavior.  Change comes from within.

Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.  He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else’s man.  Oh Lord!  If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. 


A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending…compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships…there is nothing cute about baggage… deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you…a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals…look for someone complimentary…not supplementary.

Dating is fun…even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes…when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.


7 responses »

  1. Aren’t these lessons that women over a certain age/stage have already learnt, but although knowin’ it in de mind, they overshadow it wid de heart. U know what ah mean?! There’s a female in her 40s who called me sometimes discussin’ serious experiences she was havin’ wid men. Last time we spoke — ages ago — ah mighta mentioned that even “20-somethings” were makin’ better decisions than she was — AND bein’ safer & more careful. Didn’t want 2 hear any-ting even soundin’ like de above; talk ’bout how she noh want nobody lecture har. (“Liberated,” earnin’ 2 or 3 people’s salaries put together, but still triflin’ in her decisions.)

  2. Ms. Piggy, you are so right. The statements all seem to be common sense, but often it comes down to a matter of “head over heart”.

  3. Good advice… but, you CAN change a man, or anyone, if you have sufficient influence over them and know how to use it.

  4. Head over heart?

    Not sure about that — more like self esteem over love perhaps?

    Bwoy the lonely road is hard but I only meet full time eediots!

  5. Omni, it had your 1st comment as spam and I got the 2nd one to approve so now both appear there. You should be cool from now on with your comments.

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