Category Archives: Good Advice

I’m Back … Again

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Wow! I can’t believe how long it’s been since I posted here. It seems like it was just the other day, but alas … it’s been a while! It is truly amazing at how some things in your life just take a back seat as you go through the rigours of life. It’s not for a lack of things to post about, or a lack of desire to share with you some of the exciting and not so exciting happenings in my life, or a lack of things happening in the world and in our region that have warranted many rants and comments … but … For one reason or another, just never get around to making a post.

Anyhow, Happy New Year to all my blog peeps who are still stopping by to see if CD has something to say. It really means a lot especially when I know that I haven’t been keeping this blog as up to date as I should.

Nonetheless, a lot has happened with CD since the last post. From going back to school to pursue a short 1 year skill diploma, to going through many changes on the professional scene (although having the same job title … grateful to still have a job!) to losing a very close friend of mine to the dreaded disease called Cancer to starting a new exercise regimen, to getting some much needed rest during the Christmas holiday, to spending some time with a few friends … all in all, CD is happy about life and where she is right now.

This has been a very surreal period for me as well as last year this time, I was in and out of hospital, in excrutiating pain and give God thanks that I am here to talk about it. So many didn’t make it to 2010 and for those who went too soon, they are an inspiration for me to live my life to the fullest.

Yes people, as last year’s American Idol Kris Allen sings in his billboard single, “Live Like We’re Dying”. Tomorrow is promised to no one and we should all make the best of every minute of every day. Show the ones you love that you do.
Do good to others, no matter how small. Keep a song in your heart and a smile on your face, even when things are not going exactly the way you want. Spend more time with your family and loved ones. Don’t get caught up in the job and other things that are secondary or just a means to an end. The very breath you take is the hope you should hold on to … you are alive therefore, anything is possible. Live your life enjoying every minute despite the stresses of the real world and real bad situations you have to deal with. If you have friends and family to support you through a difficult time, you are fortunate and blesssed that you’re not alone.

That’s my kick off for the new year and plan to keep that outlook comes what may!

Have a fabulous day blog peeps. Love you all!

Parenting 101

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Being a parent has got to be one of the most fulfilling jobs in the world.

My son just turned 3 last week and I can’t help but look at him and think of how wonderful he is growing up. Yes, he’s a typical boy, always wanting to climb to heights that would make a trapeze artist think twice and give you a coronary, always wanting to run, not being able to keep still for a split second because he feels he must always be doing something,and I could go on and on. Yes, he has those moments when I feel like I would run away but all in all he’s such a good boy. He is very protective of his little sister, who turned 2 in August and they are like 2 peas in a pod.

A lot of people are amazed that I manage to care for 2 small children without losing my sanity or at least some hair on my head. They think so to the point where people have actually asked me if I’m not going to have another one. I tell them where to get off when they come with that line of argument. The truth be told, if I could afford to be a stay at home mom and could afford it, I would have more children … not like Mrs. Duggar who has 18 going on 19 but I think I would stop at 4. And … my son has been asking me for 2 brothers lately, specifically brothers because he “already has a sister and he doesn’t want another one”. Interesting.

These have been my tenets for raising my children:

1. Good managers. They must say good morning to anyone they see when they wake up.
2. Must say prayers. Before eating and going to bed.
3. Must learn something new every day, not necessarily academically, but a life skill, a new fact of the world, etc.
4. Must take a nap in the daytime. They can’t just keep going and going and going … and mommy needs a break too.
5. Respect each other’s space. Give the other one privacy when in the bathroom or being changed.
6. Respect mommy and daddy and sister/brother. Hitting, kicking, biting, scraping or spitting on us never goes unpunished.
7. Spend time outside. Nothing beats some fresh air, sunshine, grass and water from a hose!
8. Be independent. Learn to do things on their own, e.g., putting dirty clothes in the basket, diaper in the bin, brushing teeth, etc.
9. Speak the truth and speak it ever … they both know this gem word for word
10. Share.

Parenting skills are honed overtime and I believe in setting the tone from now for those dreaded teenage years that appear to be the most challenging for every parent. One of the most important characteristics a parent needs is patience, especially in the early days when you have to be repeating the same thing a million times. I’m lucky to have been blessed with that characteristic, but since I’ve been a parent, I’ve prayed many times for supernatural patience. Sometimes that is what it takes to get through an evening or a day.

At the end of it all, nothing beats the smile from a child because it is pure, genuine and from the heart. It makes all the challenges worth going through at the end of the day.

To all the parents out there, continue to do a good job of raising your children. You only get one chance to do it so do it well. To all the soon to be parents, don’t be afraid to ask for help at any time. It will be a new territory for you and rest assured, you won’t know it all, regardless of how you have excelled in other areas of your life. Nothing beats preparation – read up on parenting to get yourself in gear. You won’t regret it. Never doubt yourself or your ability to do a good job regardless of what your parents have to say. Parents on both sides tend to think they know best. That may be true but you too will have knowledge and skills to do an excellent job. Learn to say no. There’s nothing wrong in saying no to some advice you don’t think you need. Like, I remember when my son had a hiccup and my bf’s mom told me to put thread on his forehead to make him stop. I wasn’t about to do it and mi neva care if shi vex!

Bless up peeps. CD Out.

Desiderata

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I often reflect on the Desiderata for inspiration and rejuvenation when I’m not able to afford to get a lovely Spa massage and facial 🙂 … it is a heartfelt rendition that sums up the spirit of what life should really be all about.

Here’s to the beginning of another week … let us strive to always be happy!

Desiderata

— written by Max Ehrmann in the 1920s —

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible, without surrender,
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even to the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
they are vexatious to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs,
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love,
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

Staying in Touch

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It is amazing how hard it is these days to stay in touch.  I remember back in 1993, I went on a search for a penpal.  I went through a few and finally found one in Germany, a girl, the same age as me.  It was so much fun, writing letters (not email) on real paper, walking 10 minutes to the post office to mail these letters off, pay for the stamp and then wait for 2 months or sometimes more to get a reply.  I remember the excitement I would feel when the post man came and I would see the very familiar colourful envelops she used to send her letters in.

We corresponded for years until 1998 when we just lost tough with each other.  The last letter I wrote to her, I had just opened my very first email address, at Yahoo and had put that email address in the letter, saying it would be much easier for us to communicate this way.  When a year or 2 passed, I just accepted the fact that I had lost my very special friend.   As an only child, you cannot imagine the companionship you find in the strangest places.  My penpal and I connected so well, talking about the stresses of school, being a teenager, boys and the works.  And then, I didn’t hear from her.

FF to 2007 … I get an email from … you guessed it .. my long lost pen pal.  It was a good thing I never changed my email address … it is the same one I’ve had and used since 1997 … and now, we communicate more often, and we’ve even connected now on facebook.  Now we share pics electronically, back in 1997, we sent real photos, printed and all, and back then, they certainly weren’t call pics.

Now, what are the odds that we would reconnect in this way?

These days, we just get caught up in the daily grind of life, that we don’t make the time anymore to call up our friends, or an old one or too just to say hello and find out how they are doing.  I try to do that as much as possible.  I haven’t gotten around to calling every one yet, but it is so important to keep in touch.  It would be really sad to hear that someone you thought was a friend or special even in the smallest way, was no longer around for you to reach out to.

This year, let’s try to stay in touch with the people we care about, even a little.  It could make a difference.

On another note, I hope everyone remembers to check the “Thought For Today” tab at the right!

Bless up!

R Kelly’s Response

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While going home from dinner on New Year’s Day, I heard a remix of Beyonce, ummm … sorry … Sasha Fierce’s “If I Were A Boy” with  one of R&B’s greatest artists, R. Kelly.  I Love It!  Some ladies might not like his response but I think he’s right on the money.  Check it out and let CD know what you think!!

Sayonara 2008

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As 2008 slowly draws to a close, I want to wish you all that’s great in 2009.  This year has been one of great happiness and sadness, successes and failures, ups and downs, goods and bads, and every other contrast you can think of.

As we move forward to the beginning of another year, may all you dream for, wish for, long for, fight for, be yours.  If you haven’t already, take the time to find yourself in 2009.  It will be one of the greatest gifts you give yourself and the world.

Bless up everyone.  “See” you in ’09.